What do we say when a customer or colleague says, “thank you”?
For a long time, it was “you’re welcome.” This indicates that you put in some effort and you’re willing to do it again on request.
Recently “no problem” has become more common. This implies that the effort could have been a huge hassle, but this time, it was okay.
For people who are choosing to do the work of hospitality and connection, though, the most accurate answer might be, “my pleasure.” After all, you had a choice, and you chose to do this work precisely so that it could have an impact on someone else. The story we tell ourselves about the work can be fuel for finding ways to do it better.
If it’s not a pleasure, and you’re doing things like this all day, it might be a good time to find something else to do.
Horst Schulze promoted this idea at the Four Seasons, but it works just about everywhere.